connecting FOR/WITH

The palette of choice, doesn’t only contain colours of paint, to paint pretty pictures with on a 2 dimensional surface.
To create sturdy multidimensional projects, it also contains GLUE, to connect different dimensions (on different levels of being) with..

For building things like bikes, structural integrity is a prime topic.
In such matters, that is referring to the overall material structure being well connected, using suitable-to-its-purpose, high quality materials.

In building communities, the overall structural integrity  of community developments is very much under the influence of the quality of the connections used when various elements within the social constellation are put together in a meaningful order. The ‘glue’ used on connecting it all.

The most natural multidimensional energy-glue one can apply in community building is known as ‘WITH’.

 WITH is strong, flexible, expandable and acts as a high speed, transparent broadband conduit.

However, most people in the western world rely nowadays on using an artificial, two-dimensional (linear) energy-‘glue’ called  ‘FOR’.

FOR may have a stronger ability to keep things firmly in place. However is not so very flexible, can only  expand in one direction (‘more of the same’) once put in place and has much less capacity to act as a conduit. It goes brittle in the long run: loses its shine and liveliness rather quickly and…. the whole construct falls apart at some point in time, often after having  become ‘hard work:  to check all the connections and re-apply FOR constantly, to keep it intact.

People who are connected to human constructs (communities, for instance) held together by relying predominantly on the binding powers of  ‘FOR’ usually describe the cycle of creating and sustaining ‘life’ along these lines:

I have to invest a lot of time in something,

• that I don’t really enjoy doing this way

FOR, ( in order to obtain)

• the things I do value and enjoy doing and having
• like mobility and free time with nourishing activities

Their abundant use and appearance of fixed  and opaque expectations: (have to’s), is a great indicator for using this operating system on MIND. Just as much as the amount of big problems on the screens of their awareness, that keep things/them from moving in the desired direction.
( “No matter how hard you try…..! So, what’s the point in trying?”)

The understandings in communities held together on using ‘ WITH’ are more like:

We invest freely, happily, joyfully the amount of time and energy we have available,

• in the activities we really enjoy doing them this way
• for we know this works most wisely: most smoothly, harmoniously and effectively

WITH,

• the resources we value and enjoy 

Which may seem like only a very subtle difference in approach (which is true) but it produces quite a different  quality of life, as you very well know by your own experiences over the last couple of decades.

The abundant use and appearance of free flowing transparent happy expectancy’s: (like(ly) to’s)  is a great indicator for using this operating system on the MIND.
Just as much as the amount of appealing opportunities they see on the screens of their awareness. Feasible options that keep things moving in the desired direction (forward) , including a clear knowing on why and how. ( “Great results and satisfaction at little cost”)

Can you see how the glue called ‘WITH’ holds a fundamental, sustainable both-and choice?

Joy? Both in the here-and-now and in the future.
Who benefits? Both myself and others involved.